For several of us, Tinder is about fucking, yet not for all. All pictures by author

Tinder could be the generation that is hook-up GPS for banging. It really is fast, convenient, and offers use of seeing a brand new person nude IRL. Could it be primarily to have laid? For myself and a lot of individuals I understand, that answer is just a noisy and inarguable “clearly.”

But flick through Tinder on any offered and you’ll find people who disagree day. Marked with bios that read “No hook-ups, swipe left bitch!” (genuine message when you look at the bio of someone I matched with), you will find individuals in the app whom legitimately state they truly are instead of here for the fast orgasm. Some state they desire buddies, or long-lasting relationships, while some would like to prevent the psychological chaos of fuck-and-chuck culture that is hook-up. Curious about much more, some women were asked by me i matched with why they are not down with hookups.

Fatima, 19, Pupil

VICE: If you don’t hook-ups, exactly what are you searching for on Tinder? Fatima: To be honest, in the beginning, I became down for whatever, but after a year of getting crazy, we told myself my 2nd 12 months of university that i simply wanted a boyfriend. [That’s] why I place no hook-ups. I’m still lowkey down [to hook-up], but We’d go for somebody long-lasting compared to a one-night stand.

Ended up being here any such thing in particular that turned you removed from hook-up culture? not enough attractive guys i assume. Every man I happened to be down for lived past an acceptable limit if I wanted to have a friends with benefits with [somebody], before I could say anything, he was gone for me to travel and every close guy was a fuck boy, so even.

Have actually any luck was had by you with significant times through right right here yet? Well, I became a child that is sheltered going down to university and being free—we went crazy with hook-ups, also my man buddies would offer me props and state we’m their idol. [That said], we thought we had one the other day—I happened to be generally not very ready to do just about anything but perhaps a make-out sesh. I was thinking it went great as well as the man stated he previously enjoyable too, then again he ignored me personally and I also finally got a solution from him that has been, “It really is perhaps maybe not the things I’m set for,” which sucked.

Can you get responses that are negative dudes find out you’re perhaps perhaps not into just setting up immediately? Certainly not. We [only] recently began switching individuals down, and I also’ve been carrying out a job that is horrible you’re feeling?

I really do. At the very least you are attempting! What is your perfect non-hook-up date, if you have one? Nothing fancy really. I am maybe perhaps not really a particular individual. Like, as long as we’m using them, we’re able to do just about anything also it’d be fine. But probably away from a room might be best. [laughs]

Tiffanie, 20, Swim Coach

VICE: Your bio claims to “swipe kept” if some one really wants to hook-up. Why? Tiffanie: Tinder hook-ups aren’t good I think. That is simply my estimation. I do believe it is offering yourself brief.

Exactly just What do you really suggest by that? I do not understand. Like, you do not understand these individuals. That alone makes me personally skeptical of fulfilling up with someone. Why would i wish to bang them from the bat? It does not add up. It isn’t safe either.

Therefore, are you currently against all hook-ups or just quick, fast hook-ups? Like, can you continue a night out together with someone then perhaps hook-up afterward? Without a doubt, nevertheless they’d need certainly to introduce it as a night out together and I also’d need certainly to like them. If a person’s simply in for intercourse, that isn’t one thing i am confident with. They are able to accomplish that on the very very own time and i am okay along with it, i simply never actually want to [be included] for the reason that type of thing.

What is your experience on Tinder been like? This has been good—i have met great individuals on here. I’ve a few friends that are good because we came across on Tinder. There clearly was some guy I happened to be seeing for a little off here, but we are no more together. We nevertheless talk.

Tinder is generally speaking offered as main towards the “Netflix and Chill” deal. Could you say it is built primarily for hook-ups and fast sex? I do not think therefore, at the very least, maybe maybe not in my opinion. It is a way that is really fast fulfill individuals, but it is not like, overly-sexualized, y’know? The only real [basis] for liking one another is appearance and a bit in your bio, which means you know an individual believes you are hot or pretty, but that is about this. I do believe lots of my buddies are appealing, and I also think I love them more as a result of that, but does which means that I would like to have intercourse together with them? No.

Whitney, 19, Shopping

VICE: whenever do you begin using Tinder? Whitney: we began Tinder that is using when first split up with my boyfriend in might 2014. We have been off and on ever since but we’m because I think [he] and I are officially done on it again.

Why did you select the no hook-up policy on right here? Well, I do not think setting up along with other dudes may be the way that is right conquer somebody. It simply ultimately ends up making me feel disgusted and upset with myself.

Maybe you have utilized Tinder for hook-ups in past times? No, we ordinarily utilized Tinder in order to satisfy people that are new but often it contributes to hook-ups. Now i recently have a tendency to avoid it.

How about starting up casually enables you to feel bad about your self? In past times, I would personally’ve utilized setting up in order to make me feel complete. We have actuallyn’t been “alone” in 36 months, when I happened to be, setting up with some body was the real option to go—especially with my close man buddies. Ultimately individuals began calling me personally a whore, and I also became a thing that i did not desire to be any longer. I suppose i am wanting to deal with being solitary by perhaps perhaps maybe not starting up with individuals any longer, [so i am] looking for a brand new distraction in my entire life.

In the side that is reverse has anyone got mad you don’t want to hook-up? No, I’ve never actually had anybody get angry at me personally, which can be type of surprising because it’s Tinder.

Karen, 19, Undeclared

VICE: Alright, if you do not me personally asking, why not have ‘No hook-ups’ in your bio? Karen: Well, just because I’m maybe not on Tinder for hook-ups does not mean i am in opposition to it. Like, my basic motive on Tinder is merely to talk to cool individuals, but if your hook-up turns into a thing then possibly i might.